Self Esteem in Teen

1. Set Clear-cut Goals

Your teen can benefit greatly when you help her find a particular interest, set an objective and develop a plan for reaching it. She may be drawn to an activity where there are inherent goals, both incremental and ultimate, such as a scouting program, 4-H club, gymnastics or martial arts. You can watch your teen's self esteem soar as she reaches each level on her way to the final accomplishment.

When your child wants to explore something without built-in measures for success, be creative about developing clear-cut goals. Suppose he is interested in robotics or another aspect of science. In this case, you will want to help him define certain steps on the way to becoming an aficionado of the subject. You teen can begin with simple circuitry processes and work his way up to the more complicated designs. Proving to himself that he can accomplish something tangible in a complicated area will naturally boost self-image.

2. Teach Teens to Project Confidence

Has anyone ever told you to put on a brave face and you did just that? Chances are you felt better about the obstacle you were facing simply by bucking up, standing tall and putting on a smile. If you find your insecure teen slouching or frowning, ask her to participate in your little experiment. Though she may be reluctant, gently insist until she complies. Make her practice projecting confidence until it becomes an automatic response.

3. Work on Mind, Body and Soul

Teens have a tough time developing and maintaining a positive image of themselves while in the awkward process of mentally, physically and emotionally growing toward maturity. As a parent, you can ease your child's transition to adulthood by acknowledging and addressing her progress in these three distinct areas. Encourage spiritual growth by getting your teen involved in a community organization that shares her values regarding faith. Promote physical wellbeing by helping your teen find a sport or form of physical exercise that she truly enjoys. Inspire your teen to develop her mental faculties by challenging her to think analytically and logically.


Lisa Mooney holds a biology degree from UNC Charlotte and specializes in writing about stress management, family dynamics, personal relationships, nutrition and pediatric medicine. A survivor of cervical cancer, she credits her health in large part to her family and a positive social network.

Last Updated: May 6, 2008